The New 12-Step Program
for Living Life
by Hank Innerfeld
(Published in the Healing Path Magazine - March/April 2004)
We’re living through times of incredible change. Change that is
affecting each of us individually and all of us collectively. Change
that is affecting our family units, our organizations, our
institutions, our religions, our governments, our nations, our
economies. This change permeates into the core of who we are and
significantly affects the dynamics of our every day
This change is really the reflection of the evolution of new
life-paradigms here on our planet. The old paradigm was governed by
fear, doubt, despair, grief, anger, judgment, intolerance,
unworthiness, unforgiveness. We need just look back over mankind’s
history to see how these have been a dominant factor in governing
our life-experiences. The new paradigm is governed by unconditional
love, total acceptance, total allowance, inner-peace, happiness,
joy, abundance. We are living through the transition-time between
these two paradigms. It is a birthing process for each of us
individually and all of mankind collectively.
The New 12 Step Program allows us to evolve into the new paradigm
most easily and, if actively embraced in our lives, will minimize
the overall stress on our bodies through this transition period. It
is a template for life. Each of these items individually allows for
more positive experiences as we move forward in our lives. All of
them collectively, create a personal ethic which will allow us to
embrace our spiritual power and move forward in life with minimal
wear-and-tear in our bodies and in our life-experiences. While each
of the 12 items will be discussed below, I recommend that to most
effectively utilize this program, you use the template at the bottom
of this article, go within your own inner-knowing to determine the
specifics of what each item means to you and how to most effectively
integrate each item into your life.
1) BE… Be fully present in each moment. Be aware in each
moment to allow yourself to embrace the fullest potential in each
experience. Be whole and complete in all of your interactions.
Embrace your beingness consciously and pro-actively.
2) FLOW… Flow in the energies of your heart in each moment.
This will ultimately result in far less effort, far less
wear-and-tear on your body and less stress in your life. Flow in the
creative dynamics of each interaction and thereby most easily flow
through each situation you encounter in life.
3) LISTEN… Listen to your inner guidance. Each of us has the
inner-knowing within, which will always serve us... but we need to
listen to it carefully. Create time in your life to listen to that
guidance, for it will always provide you with the smoothest and most
gentle pathway in life.
4) LOVE… Love yourself and all others unconditionally. Love
yourself... first and foremost... for if you are filled with love,
there is so much more love to give to others. Our society and our
culture teaches to love others first, which is like pouring water
out of an empty pitcher. If you love yourself unconditionally, that
pitcher is always full and will allow you the potential to serve the
5) ACCEPT… Accept yourself and all others unconditionally as
you move forward in life. When you totally accept each experience
for its perfection, without judgment, suddenly life takes on a whole
new perspective. It is the judgment that creates the non-acceptance.
When we release the judgment, we can now flow into a whole new
peaceful-dynamic in life.
6) ALLOW… Allow yourself and all others their choices. Allow
each their life-experience, recognizing the perfection of each
situation, and facilitating the overall growth for all involved. In
this way we can look at life through a perspective that exclusively
reflects the positive attributes and allows gratitude for everyone
and everything in our lives.
7) RESPECT/HONOR… Respect and honor all for their choices;
for the perfection of their experiences that have allowed them to
grow to this point. Honor yourself and all others in every moment.
Honor your body with the proper water intake, healthy
foods/nutrition, adequate sleep, etc. It doesn’t take a rocket
scientist to realize if you provide your body with the proper
building blocks it will repair itself and maintain its health.
8) EMBRACE ONENESS… We are all ONE in consciousness at a
higher vibratory level than our physical vibration. We are each
reflections of each other. Every religion tells us that we are all
made in God’s image and that we have the God-spark within… Through
that God-spark, every man, woman, and child is connected to the
essence, the consciousness, the Oneness that we call God... and at
that level we are all ONE. As we embrace our Oneness, there is truly
no separation. As we embrace our Oneness, there can be no more wars,
no more murders, no more killing... for in truth we are annihilating
an aspect of ourselves.
9) EMBRACE TRUTH… This means live in your integrity. It means
no more lying; even little white lies don’t honor you. This is the
one that has been the most difficult for me personally, as I never
realized how pervasive little white lies have been, based on my own
family/cultural upbringing. Rather than lie, don’t say anything;
this will allow you to stay in your integrity as you move forward in
10) LIVE FULLY… It doesn’t pay to only half-do something...
throw yourself into the experience of life with gusto. Embrace each
moment. Be all you can be. Embrace the fullness of life’s experience
within every moment, within each interaction, using the totality of
11) LAUGH… Laughter is the greatest healer. It releases
endorphins; it raises your body’s energetic frequencies, and shifts
you from the fear vibration into the love vibration. It moves the
body into a healing mode. Laugh liberally at and with life... for in
looking at life from that perspective, it will truly provide you
with wondrous entertainment in each moment.
12) BE ALL… Be all you can be each moment. Be one with all of
creation. Choose to be fully in each moment,...and watch your life
evolve into a joyous, vibrant, nurturing, and satisfying
life-experience now and forevermore.
I’d suggest that you joyfully and wholeheartedly embrace this new
12-Step Program into your life and observe your life and yourself
evolve into embracing the magnificence and the truth of who you are.
THE NEW 12-STEP
PROGRAM FOR LIVING LIFE
FLOW... LISTEN... LOVE...
ACCEPT... ALLOW... RESPECT/HONOR...
EMBRACE ONENESS... EMBRACE TRUTH...
LIVE FULLY… LAUGH… BE ALL…
NOW AND FOREVERMORE!
BIO: Hank Innerfeld is
a gifted alternative-heath practitioner living in Lakewood, CO and a
nationally renowned practitioner and certified teacher of Spiritual
Response Therapy (SRT) and Spiritual Restructuring. He is a dynamic
motivational speaker, providing empowerment tools to enable people
to more pro-actively embrace their lives. Hank is also the published
author of two books. He has successfully facilitated thousands of
SRT clearings worldwide and teaches SRT classes, Spiritual
Restructuring classes and empowerment workshops throughout the
United States. For private consultations, he can be reached at
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